I say all that to say, she has a weekly video blast that she sends out on Tuesday via email (Marie TV). This week, the topic was, “How To Set Goals With Soul.” This particular video is an interview with Danielle LaPorte creator of the Desire Map. Danielle is awesome and this interview was awesome.
I like the idea of goal setting but I notice that I have lists of things that I want to do, be, and buy. However, the lists are overwhelming. The lists make me feel defeated on the outset because those are all things that are outside of me. I have some control over what I do but there are certainly obligations that set limits on what I can do.
For instance, being a mother of 4. If I wanted to move to the middle of nowhere and live in a tent, I couldn't do that because of the needs of my children. All of the things that I want to "be" are liquid. Things happen, ideas change, God makes his revisions and provisions, and that is it. Then, there is the stuff which includes my dream home, my dream car and my dream laundry room (do not judge my dream laundry room!). I'm fickle just like you. I could change my mind about the "things" that I want to buy. So, what the hell are my goals really? What does all this shit mean?
What Danielle is doing with goal setting is not talking about goal setting in all its dryness and monotony. Goal setting is a necessary evil which is a practice encouraged in any book and by any coach. However, Danielle is hard core spiritual about goal setting which somehow makes it seem like something more desirable to do. Her question is NOT, “what are your goals?” but, “how do you want to feel?”
Why is how you feel important to the goals that you set?
Everything that we do as human beings is related to some feeling that we want to feel. Check out the interview and you’ll get it. You’ll have it. And, my hope is that you can use these tools that Danielle talks about to approach today and beyond with an emotional connection as opposed to some cold, hard goals on a piece of paper.
Tell me what you think!
Remember that you can have success or you can have your excuse, but you cannot have both!!!!